Category: Decision making
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The Worst Enemy
I did an exercise in a class once, perhaps you have done it as well. If not, give it a try. Number 1 through 5 and write “If I didn’t have to do it perfectly, I would . . .” Then give yourself the time, and the honesty, to fill in those lines. How many…
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Don’t Leave
I was reading a brief blurb the other day about a celebrity couple who have been married for multiple decades, which, in today’s world, is often seen as some sort of feat. When asked the secret of their enduring relationship, the answer was the simple two words “Don’t leave.” Sounds pretty basic, doesn’t it? But…
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Decompressing
I long for the ability to decompress, to be able to take even a moment and let go of all the obligations and the stress, of the endless list of things that have to be done or worried about or figured out. I have, only half jokingly, said that I think I came from the…
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As If
It is easy to look at someone else’s life and think they’ve got it all figured out. It’s easy to think that everything works for them while nothing feels like it’s working for you. It’s easy, and maybe it’s human nature, but it’s wrong. Pretty much always wrong. I had a conversation this week with…
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Transformation
I’ve been thinking about the concept of transformation. The word and the concept feel sort of magical to me. It’s the caterpillar becoming a butterfly and the ugly duckling the beautiful swam and it’s the change we sometimes see when someone’s face alights with a smile that lights up a room. But is it really…
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Doing Hard Things
So much of the direction of our life reflects our personality. We see it in our relationships, in our work, in our choices. We play our roles in life firmly based on who we are and who we have always been. That’s not to say we can’t learn and grow and change along the way.…
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Doing What’s Right
For those of us of the Jewish faith, we are about to begin a New Year. It is a time, as with the secular New Year, when we reflect on the year that is ending and the year that is ahead. In our Jewish tradition, we specifically focus, during the ten days between the New…
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Is Civility Dead?
There were a lot of behavioral norms drilled into me by my parents. And I passed them along to my children. As I was, they were taught to say “please” and “thank you” and “excuse me.” We all learned to be respectful of others, to treat one another with kindness and to remember that “we…
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Living in Truth
Often I find that with a larger group, especially one that does not connect all that often, that starting a meeting with an “icebreaker” can be not just a good introduction but a way for folks to find points of commonality with one another. I see it as one more tool in the toolbox for…
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Baking and Leadership
Let’s start with the truth. When I was a freshman in college I had to call a friend to ask them how to boil water to make spaghetti. Truth! The only thing I ever had cooked in my life was scrambled eggs and that’s because scrambled eggs and popsicles constituted my senior year in high…
With a Full Heart 