Category: Decision making
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Living with Loss
I have come to believe that our paths in life are determined by loss and how we manage loss. Every change in our lives, we know, involves an ending. After endings, there are certainly beginnings—new times, new experiences, new eras. But what those new beginnings are, and how our life moves forward, is a result…
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Finding Mindfulness
As a child, my mother frequently begged me to “please just sit down,” my constant motion both familiar and, I am sure, more than a little irritating. As an adult, a friend and mentor told me that I had “the attention span of a monarch butterfly.” Those comments join a lifetime of similar ones, in…
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Purpose
In my world of work with older adults, we often talk about purpose and how vital it is to for everyone to have a sense of purpose. Regardless of abilities or challenges, we can all find meaning in our lives. What we must remember is that it may look different for each of us. Purpose…
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Civility
It sometimes seems to me that courtesy has ceased to exist. The words that we had drummed into us, and that were drummed into our children, “please and thank you” are often hard to come by. And, “excuse me” has completely vanished. I don’t think that this is an indication of me being “old fashioned,”…
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Being the Glue
There are so many ways to approach relationships, both personally and professionally. Some of us hold ourselves apart and watch, engaging only when we choose to engage. Some of us seek control of situations and interactions, certain that the way we want things to play out is the best way, maybe the only way. There…
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Two Roads Diverged
Perhaps you remember that fragment of a phrase from Robert Frost’s poem “The Road Not Taken.” The phrase that has always stuck with me is “two roads diverged in a yellow wood” and the poem, of course, goes on to describe the decision that has to be made, a decision that is to take the…
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Remain Calm
If there is one characteristic that is foreign to my innate personality, calm may well be it. I have always been a person who is quick to react, prone to (I admit it) some drama, my emotions on the surface. Although I have not, and am sure never will, mastered the art of the poker…
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Tying a Ribbon
I am not sure if this is a character flaw or an asset. I’m not sure if it is a “female” thing or a side effect of my childhood. What I do know is that it is part and parcel of who I am, who I have always been and who I suspect I will…
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Self Soothing
Last night we had a lovely dinner in a local restaurant. Soft, instrumental music was playing and it was a nice backdrop to our conversation. One piece of music was not really distinguishable from the rest until we got up to leave and were standing near the door for a moment. Within the blend of…
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Just Take It
It’s no secret that we live our lives at breakneck speed. We cram every minute with action, either, or both, professionally or personally. We race from one square on our game board of life to the next square, rarely taking time to think about where we have been but, rather, focusing on where we are…
With a Full Heart 