Category: Decision making
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Reframing
The middle of the night is my favorite time to obsess. I can worry obsessively about people, situations, moments. I can dwell on words that were said, or interactions that took place, that upset me. I can linger endlessly over something I did or said that I wished I hadn’t or fret about someone else’s…
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Growing People
As a leader, we have the opportunity to help individuals learn and grow, connect and thrive. It is, in fact, more than an opportunity. It’s an obligation. A long ago former boss of mine said that he’d learned a lesson early in his career. He said, only slightly tongue in cheek, that at a point…
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Natural Tendencies
As any parent knows, our children have personalities and characters that they show from the very beginning. And if nothing untoward interferes, what we see, and know, of them early is what carries forward. One child is naturally cautious, another likes to be the center of attention, you know the drill. From the very first,…
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History
I was reading a column this morning about a woman who was longing to purchase her childhood home. She’s driven by many times, even gone inside with the consent of the owner, but she still toys with the idea of wanting to have it, wanting it to be hers, feeling a need to hold onto…
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Wake Up Calls
It’s incredibly easy to put things off, to find excuses, to be the “pro” at procrastinating. It’s also incredibly easy to second guess ourselves, to think about the things we would “love to do” or that we “long to do” and find a multitude of reasons why it couldn’t/wouldn’t work. The two elements are intertwined,…
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Truths
I have come to understand a number of universal truths about my life. You know the type, I am sure. For example, I know that white skirts or pants are only on loan to me from the dry cleaner. I am allowed to wear them once and then, pretty much always, I have to take…
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Inertia
I was talking to a friend just now, someone who is winding down her career and thinking about what comes next. We were talking about the people that we know who have retired. They seem to be divided into two distinct camps. One is the group who are even more engaged than before, whether it…
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Serendipity
Year ago, working in a large community hospital, I was invited to join the local Rotary Club. It was the right thing to do professionally and I enjoyed getting to know a great group of people committed to an agenda of good works. I was asked, sometime early in my membership, to introduce myself to…
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Inner Voices
Many of us, if not most of us, play tapes of the voices from moments in our past in our heads. These are not the “you can do it, you got this” messages, these are not the “wow, you are so good at this” voices. They are the voices that question and criticize and erode…
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Finding Enough
When I teach yoga, as many yoga teachers do, I start with a theme for our practice and I end with a few minutes of guided meditation as my students relax into their final savasana. Given the fact that I primarily teach older adults in either a long term care or assisted living setting, my…
With a Full Heart 