Have you ever had one of those times in your life when you felt backed into a corner? You know what you believe is right and yet the pressure to change your mind, to change your decision is relentless.

It happens in professional life and it happens in personal life. And it is difficult sometimes to know whether you should stand firm or allow yourself to be swayed. You begin to question yourself and the internal debate can become consuming.

If I dig in and hold my ground, what are the ramifications? If I allow myself to be persuaded, will I later regret my change of mind? Maybe you, like me, find those warring thoughts to haunt the middle of the night. Those are the moments where I find it’s less about being rational or even logical and more about looping in circles of “what should I do?”

There’s a lot of conventional wisdom about decision making, writing out the pros and cons, weighting those pros and cons, journaling, talking it out. The goal is, of course, to separate the emotions from the decision, shining a light on the facts (as you see them) to help show the way more clearly.

Yet I find that, rather than list making, my clearest judgment comes from looking inside, from listening to my full heart. For me those moments of clarity, of listening, come best with a kind of moving meditation. Walking and allowing myself to let my thoughts run free helps me but so do other kinds of movement, from yoga to just feeling the peace of standing under a hot shower.

When we look at situations, at decisions, at challenges with a full heart and listen to that heart, I believe that we are choosing what we fully know to be right. We can hold that line because it is rooted in, and anchored by, our full hearts.